Tips for rejecting online suitors from Tinder’s most right-swiped guy
Gerald Elbasani, who is one of the most right-swiped users on Tinder, has opened up about how he turns down people he’s not interested in. Here are the tips he’s shared with The New York Times:
- Keep it straightforward. Be direct and concise about your lack of interest; drawing it out doesn’t help anyone.
- Honesty is ideal; it shows respect for the other person’s time and intentions.Don’t give false excuses—you’ve been really busy on the job, for example, or you’re just extremely tired—because those offer follow-up openings when your work project or nap is done.
- Give specific reasons. If you are genuinely not interested in someone—you don’t see any shared interests or just don’t “vibe” with the person—say so. If you like him or her, but things have started to heat up with someone else, share that information.
- Throw some sugar on the message. A bit of levity, or even just a smiley-face emoji, can go a long way. Make it genuine—something like “This has been a great conversation but ..” or “You seem like a really cool person but…” can be effective.
- Avoid the easy way out: ghosting. It’s common, but being online already provides you a considerable amount of remove; the confrontation is far more indirect when it happens over text. Also, you might look better by being one of the few people mature enough to be open and honest.